{"id":4621,"date":"2021-12-16T17:00:52","date_gmt":"2021-12-16T17:00:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.natashabray.com\/web\/?p=4621"},"modified":"2022-02-04T20:57:01","modified_gmt":"2022-02-04T20:57:01","slug":"the-golden-parent-wound","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.natashabray.com\/web\/2021\/12\/16\/the-golden-parent-wound\/","title":{"rendered":"The Golden Parent Wound and How it is Impacting Your Success"},"content":{"rendered":"

Did you have one parent who you placed on a pedestal and could do no wrong?<\/h3>\n

Was the other always to blame for what went wrong in your life?<\/h3>\n

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If you resonate with this, then you could be suffering from something I call the \u2018Golden Parent Wound\u2019.<\/p>\n

You may have heard about the golden child and scapegoat child dynamic, where in dysfunctional families one child can do no wrong while the other gets the blame for everything. But have you heard about the Golden Parent and Scapegoat Parent?<\/p>\n

Our parents and upbringing have an incredible impact on our future success and happiness, and this is not always a good thing! The Golden Parent Wound is something which I have discovered after years of working on healing both myself and thousands of clients, and is something which, once healed, can be a catalyst for incredible transformation in yourself, your life and your business.<\/p>\n

In fact, the biggest shifts (and biggest gifts) in my life, relationships and business success came from healing my Golden Parent Wound.<\/p>\n

What is the concept of the Scapegoat Parent?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

\u2018Scapegoats\u2019 exist in dysfunctional families as a person to blame for anything that goes wrong within the family. There are many reasons for why and how scapegoats are chosen, but most of these are subconscious and could be based on personality traits and even looks (if they remind us of someone!).<\/p>\n

We often think that one parent is to blame for our issues, I call this the Scapegoat Parent. We usually feel very negatively towards this parent and believe they deserve all our blame for the past.<\/p>\n

Unlike the unfair and untrue blame put onto scapegoated children, there can be a lot of truth in this blame onto the Scapegoat Parent. The Scapegoat Parent is often the parent who has abused, abandoned or deeply hurt us in some way. However, they are not necessarily the only person to blame for our problems and struggles – and that is where the hidden wound lies. We spend a lot of our healing journey focusing on healing from the pain the scapegoat parent has contributed to, which takes away the benefit of healing from the other stuff too.<\/p>\n

What is the concept of the Golden Parent?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

In our eyes, the Golden Parent can often do no wrong. We place them on a pedestal and give them our sympathy, compassion and unconditional love. We make excuses for them and are more understanding of their needs and difficulties. This is partly because of the need to believe that we had at least one good or \u2018perfect\u2019 parent, at least one person in our childhood who cared about us and for us.<\/p>\n

However, what we don\u2019t see (and often don\u2019t want to see!), is that the Golden Parent also hurt us, had faults and made mistakes, and in many ways, this could have been the most damaging relationship of all to our sense of self.<\/p>\n

We need to believe that we are not so \u2018unlovable\u2019 that both parents could have \u2018wronged\u2019 us.<\/p>\n

You see, I have seen this illusion time and time again. An illusion the mind creates in order to protect us and offer some validation. An illusion to keep us safe from the pain caused by the Golden parent. You see, The Golden Parent is usually the parent who did not protect you from the abusive, toxic or neglectful parent.<\/p>\n

How the Golden Parent Wound is Impacting your Success<\/strong><\/h2>\n

When we have a Golden Parent Wound which is still hidden or unhealed, it can impact how we think and feel about ourselves and impact the success of our life, relationships and even our businesses.<\/p>\n

Perhaps some of these signs will resonate with you:<\/p>\n